i had thought that it would be good for Evie to be with her cousin Ella. but apparently i'm sadly mistaken. because Evie lives with Ella and her parents (Stanley's sister and brother-in-law), she observes first hand how Ella is with her parents all the time. Evie tells her aunt that her aunt and uncle care for Ella, while her own dad and mom care for her and that she wants her dad and mom back.. (姑姑姑丈錫妹妹,爸爸媽媽錫Evie.爸爸媽媽返嚟..) so the current arrangement no longer works. she's refusing to eat and sleep at school, and has huge temper at home as well. of course it takes time to adjust to school.. but i realized it is simply no good to separate her from her parents, no matter what the circumstance... so immediately Stanley changed his flight ticket to head home on Friday. i hope daddy's presence will help calm her down and make her happier. if in October the doctors tell me I can travel long distance, i will go see Evie immediately. If the doctors still think i should be grounded, then i hope Stanley will bring Evie to Taipei for a visit. if he finds a job here, then we could stay here for 2 years or until I no longer require such frequent hospital visits. If I'm only getting checkups every half a year, we can all move back to Canada and I'll just fly over alone for those checkups....i just worry that our prolonged stay in Taipei might cause inconvenience to my family here, and Stanley's career may be jeopardized if he's working 2 years in Taipei then start it all over again back in Toronto.. And pay in Taiwan seems so much lower than in Canada while living expenses seem the same.. But if it's only for 2 years maybe we could pull it off? Evie doesn't need to be in school so young if I'm with her all day long...
anyways. once again planning seems useless to me. perhaps i should stop my logical mind in decision making... perhaps it is better to make a few emotional decisions, especially ones concerning Evie?? it breaks my heart to know she misses us like we miss her...
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I am proud of Evie because she can say what she wants. I am happy for Evie because her parents listens to her needs.
I hope she can see you soon.
I guess the area you are staying at the moment is actually the most expensive area in Taiwan (since your family members seem very affluent). Housing in some other parts of Taiwan is actually not that expensive. But I also think your family (I mean your mum and bro) are actually happy because they are able to help you when you are in need. You should take it.
It is indeed heart breaking to see your baby not eating, sleeping and being angry. They are actually the normal reactions for a young child when they first going to school. My daughter (almost 2 y/o) was like that as well. I was so worried but after one week, she stopped being so angry (because of giving up protesting, I suppose). Then she started to eat and drink and sleep.... and slowly she will start playing with other kids.
I think for your husband... indeed it is not easy to leave a job after two years and to start all over again. But if you think of it in a positive way, it may all seem very different. For example, good two-year working expereince and living experience in Taiwan can also be valuable in his future career.
So stay positive and listen to what you need both emotionally and physically.
I can totally feel your pain especially when you hear what Evie said. I am so proud of Evie who can express her feelings so well. I always believe in going through thick and thin together as a family. Sometimes we want to protect our children from worries and sadness but we must not under estimate the power of our little ones. Their ability to bring joy and happiness sometimes help adult solve problems too. Yes, life cannot be planned in any logical way as "things happen". There's also no "right" or "wrong" way in doing things. Do what your guts tell you to. Whatever happens in the future, let it be. As least you guys pull it through together as a family.
Please just don't worry too much for now. Stanley might be able to find a better or happier job in Taiwan for 2 years, with overseas and diff experience, that might be a bonus for him when he returns to Canada. The economy is no good anyways, why not make a change which may be a good change? Think positive baby!
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